kickingcarbs's Logboek, 26 sep 18

Girl!!! If you need support, email me, message me on facebook or instagram. I am rarely able to get on fatsecret anymore, but I do have both FB and Insta on my phone and will get those messages immediately. Klynnstowell on Instagram and Kaaryn Stowell on Facebook. Email address is klynnstowell@gmail or yahoo please, you are not alone!!  

wow. Specifically hurtful comments from spouse and family. Take a deep breath and take stock. Sometimes we make mistakes. Maybe you made a mistake, not the end of the world. Decide what is appropriate, stay or go based on what is best for YOU.  

wow I'd like to kick someone in the nuts and it's obviously not you. next time anyone makes these comments just say "I may be fat in your opinion but in mine you are ugly inside. I can lose weight but you're stuck with ugly!" bast $@ds! how dare they! Big cwtchies x 

I have been married for 41 years. I married at 18 and he was 20. We were children! I was 130 pounds, by age 20 I was 200 pounds, by age 41 I was 325 pounds and by age 45 I was 170 pounds. Today at age 59 I am 260 pounds. The point is that my weight has been all over the map. Never, at any point did my husband criticize the way I looked! There is absolutely no excuse for your husband's behaviour. His mom -- you didn't marry her so ignore her the best you can. Inside your head -- you are not your weight and it cannot define who you are as a person to yourself or your husband. If it does, then shake your head! There is so much more to any human being than their weight. Losing weight is about health and feeling good in your body -- that is it! It is not happiness, it is not love, it is not any emotion at all -- it is just a fact. The minute weight takes on emotions it does a head game with you. Just think we don't say "Oh Mother Theresa is such an amazing woman -- just look at her weight!" Next, I never share with my husband my weight plan beyond the statement of this is what I am doing with no comments being solicited. I also do not share with him my daily ups and downs. If I did, then I am inviting him to comment on what I eat or don't eat. I will not open myself up to criticism. Truly that is only my business and I take full responsibility for my decisions including ones around weight. If he tries or for that matter if any one tries to make comments about what I am eating I tell them that I am taking care of my own business! However, I am fine with him introducing me as his incredible shrinking woman! What you choose regarding the future of your marriage is up to you. Decide for your self where the spot is that you will walk. Know you have the power to walk. Know that you can walk and still love your husband but just can't live with him. Take the power of what happens to you into your own hands. Do not allow other people's opinions to make decisions for you. 

I have been thinking about you, I am so sorry to know what you have been through 😞💔 

I have erased about 4 different responses. My heart breaks for you. My hand makes a fist for you. My voice screams out for you. My feet walks out the door for you. However you deal with this situation, be true to yourself and put yourself first, because it's apparent nobody else is. Sending you love. ❤  

Just know that you can change and lose weight, but a**holes like your MIL can't change. As for your husband, remind him that you are equals and deserve respect from him, not put downs. You are NOT a doormat. 

What other people think about you doesn't matter. Not even your SO. 

Wow 😮 so sorry to hear this. Human beings can be so cruel! All that matters is what you do from now. 

You did an amazing job,lost so much weight!!!! I'm speechless about your husband...my ex husband left me for a very skinny girl. But my new partner (10yrs now) love me just as I am 😊 and proud of me how I'm fighting to lose weight. You should be proud of yourself!!!!! And need a serious talk to him... Big hug for you 🤗🤗🤗🤗 

Losing weight is not an easy thing to do when your body is sensitive to carbs and sugars. Maybe, you can sit down with your husband an explain how these foods cause weight gain based on your "body" type. The bottom line is that you are a beautiful individual. Continue doing what is best for you--take care of yourself and everything else will fall into place. Love yourself!!! 

i know you probably got married for many reasons and this may be hard to hear but let me be clear. You should not be with a person that makes you feel anything but beautiful. your beauty is present and not conditional on weather you lose weight. leave him, you don't deserve that from him or his stupid mom 

You're doing amazing. Day by day you are making progress. I'm sorry the people close to you don't understand the trials we go through. You got this. I'll be cheering for you.  

That is ahorrible way to treat a person. Your husband does say something to his mother.....I've been there! Tell him how that makes you feel and if he doesn't have the balls to put her in her place you should! or maybe find someone who will love you for you and not your size:(((((((( Sorry this really enrages me........  

This is just plain evil 😠. The fact that you have lost 100 pounds and have your confidence shaken..:yes you are worth it and you do matter. People for their own selfish reasons love to project onto others. Instead of wanting the best for others some will put you down becasue they don’t have the drive to do what you’re doing and look! You’re making progress. Every day. Sounds like your significant other would rather defeat you than encourage. Sounds like he has problems. Don’t listen to anyone. I hear that all the time about how I’m not serious about losing weight or it’s gonna come back or blah blah. But the thing is I have put my mind to it and I can do it. Just like you ! We are here for you. Don’t give up and don’t give it ❤️❤️❤️❤️ 

I cannot believe how you are being treated by the one group of people who should support you unconditionally the most. To lose over 100lbs is just amazing. I wonder if those that abuse you could lose that amount themselves if they had to. I now follow you and will support you on your journey. Keep going because you are doing so well 👍 

Wow! Thank every single one of you for your support and words of wisdom. Seriously I do not know what I would do without fatsecret. All of you are amazing and all the new role models I have now met is just so worth logging on and committing to this app.  

I would put dedication and love ahead of looks, shape, size, anything. A truly supportive spouse that loves me for who I am and not what the scale says is gold!!! The comment your husband made is pure crap and you should have planted one upside his face when he said that. Hang in there!!! Don’t lose momentum on your journey! 

keep the faith 

Please dont give your power to stupid people. This is your life and the only one you get.