anonamouser's Logboek, 22 dec 21

my husband can eat whatever he wants and never gain a pound. I also have 2 children who can eat whatever they wish. it wouldn't be fair to tell them that they can't eat the food they crave because I can't have it, but it's really hard to watch.  

It makes a lot of sense. There are a lot of people that have some problem with what other people want to eat or drink. Why is it their business? It’s definitely a tough, but important hurdle to break through. 

Tell them exactly what you just wrote. It’s easier once it’s been said. 

Sending love and support -thank you for sharing. This is real ❤ 

i have 3 rules that i go by now: 1- Never eat when not hungry 2- Never eat because someone offered food 3- Never eat because it is 'time' to eat and this doc (link below) has helped me tremendously with those 3 rules.... https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/wellnessforlife 

I wish posts allowed more text because there's always more to it...know what I mean. So...I , when at home, eat however I need to in order to maintain under 1500cal a day. When others are around, I've learned I don't say no when I reasonably could. When asked why I don't eat more, I lie, and instead of speaking up for myself with food choices, I just ...go with the flow. I don't expect anyone to change THEIR eating habits around me. Never ever! But, if I would just say""hey I'm trying to lose some weight, can we go somewhere that has blah blah blah food too"""... I could/would much better. But I don't say a word, and I just realized im ashamed of being overweight, ashamed of losing weight, ashamed of eating different, and ashamed to tell anyone what I'm doing. It's not about asking or having folks change their foods around me, it's about me. 😕 . 

Good morning, thanks for taking and sharing that beautiful photo. Your eye for capturing beauty is wonderful. As far as eating mindlessly, I think that you are at a start, you will have off days, then just restart.I am sure you will begin to handle it in due time. But most importantly you have started. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 

Just say you already had something to eat and are feeling full. I agree with love2eduacte its absolutely no one’s business. It’s your health and your body ❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏 

When i decided that i have had enough being morbidly obese i just did not care what others thought, still don't. I ate only what i wanted to, still do. Soon they realized what i had in mind. It has been eight years since. I maintain thin, healthy and fit far more than they do. I am out of the darkness; for good. I took my life back. I did not care what they thought, still don't. 

It is an issue without a doubt. Amongst many of my friends “getting together” usually means meeting at a restaurant to eat. When I go, I either don’t eat or order an appetizer, small salad or ask if they want to split something. They almost all admit that it makes them uncomfortable they are almost all obese and diabetic i do lots of active things but cannot include many of my friends in my plans because they can no longer do them. It’s a bummer. I also don’t consider binge watching some TV program a social activity. 

I learned to say "I don't eat that but thank you" if I am offered food. Or something like " oh that's not my favorite so I am going to wait for dessert" and then claim fullness at dessert. At the start, if I went to a restaurant I would order whatever, and then immediately cut it in half and have it boxed so I could semi-analyze it at home to figure calories. It was mostly guess work but I also started to avoid hanging out with anyone who felt the need to comment on what I was eating to spend time with people who were just happy to be with me  

after you say no a few times they stop asking. you just gotta get thru the intial "one day isn't going to hurt" remarks. yesterday I told my wife that I'll be sticking to my meal plan on Xmas. she just replied "yea I figured" she knows by now,, and it's bcus I've said 'no' enough times in the past. ring there with your friends and family should be enough. 

being there* 

I can sympathize with you dear. I also used to be the same way.....would eat whatever with others not to upset them. Now I have a set pattern as to what I eat, when I eat and just tell my friends, I am sorry I have already eaten but I may take a nibble of something and ask for water. Down 44 pounds in 2 year period and walk 4 miles in the am every day. God bless dear and stand firm on what is BEST for you not anyone else and soon you will see results. It is that first step that is so hard. You/ve got this, you can do it. Wishing you the best.  

I hear you!! I decide to wait until after the Christmas 🎄 season. My first year without my Mother. She died this August 2021. A very quiet and peaceful time. We can do this journey, one day at a time. Enjoy your family and friends during the Holiday. 

I am comfortable sharing with friends and family. "I am choosing a healthier lifestyle for myself. I want to be able to enjoy my friends and family longer. " I am down 80# this month. It's taken me 2.5 years. People are usually very supportive. If they don't want to Support your journey you don't owe them any addit justification. It's your life to live. Make your own choices and be true to yourself! You Can and Will succeed!  

*added justification.