tunalw's Logboek, 19 mrt 15

Have you thought about finding something to do in the evenings? I don't know what your interests are, but you could join a book club, get involved in a church or community group, or take a class. Sounds like your life has changed a lot in the past six months or so and it is understandable that you would have trouble adjusting. I am glad you have Sandy to keep you company. One thing I would suggest would be to put together some healthy dinners that you could keep in the freezer. Once you take care of the preparation, you would have a bunch of meals that would be just as easy as TV dinners and better for you. Hang in there. :) 

I'm so sorry for your loss, Tunalw. I wish I had some awesome and inspiring words, but I'd just sound like a doofus if I tried, so I'll just say that I hope you can find some healthy ways to fill the time. Take care, dear. 

I lost my partner a little over a year ago, I wish I could say it gets easier but it really doesn't. I still don't know what to do with myself when I am alone and haven't gotten out much socially. All I can say is to try fill up your days and be open to do new things. I find peace in running and in my kids. Don't shut out your friends either, they may say stupid things and it may be awkward at first but you need them and they need to know you are still here. ((hugs)) Nic 

I really hope that you find your happiness! When all I have is "nothing, and depression," I turn to God. He always comes through for me. He make beauty from ashes! I am so sorry that you hurt so bad!~Ann  

I am alone a lot. I find that my attitude about the situation determines how well I handle it. I read a quote from the book "H is for Hawk" that stuck with me. "The cure for lonliness is solitude". In other words, there are things about being by yourself that you can embrace and find joyful. I stopped reading the simple fiction books I usually read and picked up a book on economics. I decided to learn. Instead of filling my head with sorrowful thoughts, I filled it with ideas. Then I set about finding my healthy self. Rather than fill my face with snacks and comfort foods in a vain attempt to feel better, I made delicious soups and Mexican dishes that were low in fat. They made me feel good because I didn't feel guilty afterward. By making a large meal, I could reheat the leftovers and have good healthy meals for several days. Plus it was a good activity to keep my mind off my situation. The next step is to figure out where to go for new friendships. That is something I am working on. You are ending one part of your life and beginning another. That doesn't mean it has to be the end of all your joy. Good luck. I hope you feel better soon. 

There is much love for you right here - I hope you can feel it. Have you ever heard of "Meet-up" groups? It is people meeting others with similar interests. 

Sorry for your loss, it does take time to cope with something like this. You have to find yourself and not just give up. There are a lot of great people here that will help when you need them. If you have the time make a few meals ahead of time as Lzzypup68 suggests that will help with your meals. A friend of mine lost his wife last year and is going to a support group and it is helping him cope. Stay in touch and we are always here if you need us. 

It's going to make you stronger in the end, I lost my brother and mother 6 months apart as of this Jan. It is scary to be alone after that long of a time and I would love to say that it will get easier quick but it will take some time to adjust. Stay strong you're a survivor and I have no doubt you will make it through.