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Happy Wednesday FS friends
So I was wondering how you guys manage social events. Specifically, friends visiting for a weekend. A friend of mine is due to come in a couple of weeks and our relationship has always had an element of cooking together and enjoying the meal with a decadent dessert of some type. Likely some wine involved in the equation as well.
My challenge is this. It will be obvious to her that I've made some lifestyle changes due to changes in girth and appearance alone. How do I tactfully broach the issue of my need to eat/drink a certain way without causing offense yet still maintaining what I know now is a lifestyle I must embrace for the rest of my life?
There is no doubt that I could eat whatever we make even if it doesn't fit into my WOE, but I don't want to deviate at this point. It has been a long haul so far, and still have quite a ways to go. Even at the point of maintenance down the road, this WOE needs to stay.
How do you guys manage these situations?
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I'm just honest. I tell people I am on a diet I have to be on for my health and suggest that you both come up with a healthy dessert.
25 okt 23 door lid: -MorticiaAddams
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Im like Morticia, tel them you have changed your way of eating and dont want to get derailed and prepare healthy food together. I dont cook but i do know people that do and healthy food can be every bit as tasty. Even a gorgeous salad with tons of vegetables and berries or mandarin orange cut up and topped with a rotisserie chicken is so pretty and tasty
25 okt 23 door lid: Yearofhealth2023
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Good points Morticia and YOH. Part of our tradition is shopping for ingredients together as well, so that will certainly give me the opportunity to get on the healthier side of the menu. This darling girl (who I thought was a bit of a "B" based on her attitude at work) and I went Christmas baking ingredient shopping back in 1985. (I had a car, she didn't and we lived in relatively proximity to each other so.....) Found out there was a heart of gold under that somewhat crusty exterior. As I think about it, she would be totally supportive once she knows my mission.
25 okt 23 door lid: Annisworkingonit
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My feelings lean toward this…being true to ourselves in a healthy way should not threaten a relationship. We know change can be uncomfortable, and hopefully through honest communication, as you are already supposing, she will support your decision to be a healthier you! If she is a true friend, and I’m guessing you both have more than just food in common, you’re on your way to time well spent together! Enjoy 😊
25 okt 23 door lid: FoodyDuty
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I find it's easier to go out to eat when I have company. If it's just a weekend it shouldn't be too hard. I might cave and enjoy a glass of wine with a friend
25 okt 23 door lid: Fritzy 22
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I would choose some healthy recipes and just go with that. there are lots of recipes you can make that are decadent but still healthy. especially Mediterranean recipes. they are heart healthy with lots of good fats and so if im going overboard on calories I would make sure they are healthy ones. as for wine if you stick with a low sugar wine that is very dry like cabernet or chardonnay. they are about 125 cals for 6 oz. for decadent dessert I would make a flourless brownie with lots of nuts or maybe pistachio truffles. both can be made lower cal and contain healthy fats. start each meal with a veggie tray with tzatziki dip or hummus and you will find that your meals really can be scrumptious shareables but still healthy and only a moderate deviation from your WOE.
25 okt 23 door lid: Darlene914
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If I know that I’m going to have a “treat meal” I will try to reduce carbs and fats for a day or two leading up to it. Then I will try to keep the portions to a respectable minimum. (Consuming some extra protein ahead of the meal can help) But, sometimes even that can be a trigger. so if I really wanted to avoid, I would either try to find an alternative that is fun, tasty and healthy (frozen bananas make a great ice cream substitute, protein powder cheesecake or puddings and custards can be good and healthy, fruit and nut yogurt frozen brittle or parfaits, etc. can be decent options that are tasty but still healthier) or just explain to my friend my goals and the steps I’ve taken to get to my current place. A good friend should be supportive, in my opinion. Best of luck. I know those situations can feel awkward sometimes. I find that it my brain overthinking the situation more often than not though 😉
25 okt 23 door lid: StomachMonkeys
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I agree with Morticia, come to some compromises where the recipes are concerned, but I would fully suggest having that glass of wine. Most types of wine are around 125k per serving, and if it’s part of the tradition then I’d say keep it. :) the key idea of the get together is that if you do go over calories one day then not to cut down on your calories for the rest of the week ‘to make up for it’, that has always been a huge set back for me. Hope you find some great recipes to have with your friend!
26 okt 23 door lid: waywaychuck
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Sounds like a fun weekend though i totally get the stress, been there and feel for you. Agree on planning your own day of eating around it and looking for healthy recipes or ones that can be easily modified to what you need…think of high protein and something you can pair with amazing seasonal salads and definitely enjoy dessert! i’ve been really into poaching or roasting seasonal fruits with whipped cream and fun toppings…it’s like pie without the extra fat and carbs! Most importantly, be honest, but in a casual, matter-of-fact way. You want to make it sound like a natural, casual statement of how you now live while also being careful it doesn’t come across as food-shaming them for more indulgent choices. Have lots of fun!
26 okt 23 door lid: Healthycurves2023
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I completely understand your situation. We entertained and had house guest while I was in my journey. If I made a meal out of my wheelhouse, I had a small portion and filled on salad & veggies. Stir towards lots of veggies and bbq. You can do this without making yourself feel uncomfortable. It’s the rich sauces and fried foods that do me in. Enjoy wine but sip slowly. Every other glass drink water. You got this!
26 okt 23 door lid: Shelo12
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Also your friends will be so incredibly happy for you and proud of your your progress!!!
26 okt 23 door lid: Shelo12
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