Well woman of he’s mothers age have a tendency to say whatever is on their mind but don’t mean no malice by it my mum was the same but your husband has no excuse maybe he married who he wanted you to be but I hope not I am glad you have come back to fs because you will get the support here that your husband should be giving you chin up you’re doing really well
26 sep 18 door lid: razor123ray
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I am so sorry you have to go through this. Being with someone and giving your heart to them, then finding out that they’re not who they seemed to be is heartbreaking. The things he and his mother are telling you are completely unacceptable. That’s not just lacking in empathy, it’s completely rude. You just plain don’t treat people like that!! Sending virtual support 💜
26 sep 18 door lid: emma.dalen6
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dam girl you have such a pretty face the body is just a plus. u lost sooo much weight i always say new body new man!! he can see the beauty in u right know IM DAM sure that theres a guy out there that loves u for u skinny or chunks. I would always worry about WHAT IS MY MAN thinking about my body YOU KNOW WAT! #WHO CARES U be happy ur doing soo good dont let his mom or him get in the way of u feeling good i had a mother in law like that i got rid of BOTH PROBLEMS now i have a good man that loves me for me little or big and im sooo happy. I always tell girls at work loose weight for YOU NOT A MAN. Hopefully i didnt disrespect you with my comment or disrespected anyboby but that how i feel. ur so pretty and if u loose more weight GIRL YOUR GONNA BE FINE!! Like my daughter said to me one day MOM your not a SNACK your the WHOLE MEAL and ur gonna Look BOMB!! KEEP up the hard work and dont let depression get the best of you
26 sep 18 door lid: 210stillatwork
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quit frankly , you re beautifull.fullstop. your husband is a prick , im sorry to say. dont let it get to you and dont try to loose weight because of him or his mom. Do it for yourself. he needs to love you with or without weight for who you are.
make it clear to him that you did not like his and his moms comments and you will not accept such hurtfull and condesending comments from a person that claims to love you, to whom you gave your heart. you deserve better.
27 sep 18 door lid: Fickie69
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sweetie, I'm sorry to hear you are going through that.
27 sep 18 door lid: naanyu
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I'm not sure sharing what I would actually do or say would be very helpful to you as you seem like a kind, soft person and I'm a bit too blunt at times. But I still wanted you to know that I'm sending you the strength to deal with it in the way you think is necessary. Try to surround yourself in positivity, even if it's role models online or personal development books (the books being the biggest change in my life when I suffered with depression 2 years ago). And know you will always have someone here to vent to 💜
27 sep 18 door lid: mrsp16
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wow, I am sorry there are so many negative people in your life, that is a total bummer. You are doing great and don't let anyone deter you from your goal
27 sep 18 door lid: baskington
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My DH never said a peep to me at my heaviest. He's encouraging me all the way now that *I* decided to lose weight *for myself*. My IL's have never said a peep either when I was like "f*k it, I don't care" and chomped on all the crap I wanted, but now that I'm working on myself, they only give me encouraging comments.
You don't need negative assholes in your life. There ARE people out there that will love you at your heaviest and skinniest and will never fat shame you. They'll help you achieve the goals *you* set for *yourself*.
It seems to me you have more dead weight in your home than just the one you are carrying in your body. It's not fair for you...
Good luck! Remember this is something you do for YOU, not for someone else.
27 sep 18 door lid: immort777
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Listen they dont make Diamonds the size of bricks for a start!! Lose weight for you and not for others. You will get lots of support on here and keep strong. Ignore the snide comments as best you can they are not nice people
27 sep 18 door lid: Dave 10
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first off, congratulations on your wedding, secondly I'm sorry to here of all the negative comments from your family. As someone who suffers from depression I know it's a constant battle with food when your having a bad day. Keep your head up, were here for you 💜
27 sep 18 door lid: shahidax1
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so sorry they have been this way. do the weight loss for you not them. the best revenge is success.
27 sep 18 door lid: annmarie1987
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You my dear are a winner. You have lost 100+ lbs, that is some achievement. Don't let their negative thoughts get you down, try to remain strong 💪. Sending you love and hugs 💖
27 sep 18 door lid: MarnieW
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I am so sorry to hear about how you are being treated...people are so ignorant at times! You are worth every bit of effort it takes to get healthy because you are beautiful on the inside. People who look only at the outside are never happy with themselves or others so try to ignore them. Do not internalize the criticism cuz that is just a trick of the enemy to get you stuck. You are loved and loveable.
27 sep 18 door lid: Gingerk65
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Ok.....let me remind you of your own words......you’ve lost over (100 pounds)! That’s such an amazing accomplishment. You should be patting yourself on the back, my sister. WAY TO GO! And never let others words define you! Keep up the great work!
27 sep 18 door lid: tgregory502
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You are a blessing. Losing over 100 pounds is a monumental achievement. To me you are a strong competent woman and I support your success. Don't let others derail your goals. Keep looking forward and continue for you. You are worth it.
27 sep 18 door lid: rosaschreiber
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You definitely need to tell him how painful those words were. Maybe he didn't realize how hurtful he was. Don't let it continue, because you'll grow to resent him. My first husband said stuff like that all the time, and I never let him know how much it hurt me.....until I divorced him. :( Be strong and love yourself, and everything will fall into place.
27 sep 18 door lid: melissapko
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My husband says those things. But it’s usually when he’s upset with something else. I have learned that he thinks I’m saying I don’t like the house we bought because I see another house and say it’s pretty. Or car or jewelry or anything. He thinks like a man. And I think like a woman.
27 sep 18 door lid: caraken
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Your husband must be a horse's A-- He should be helping you and not putting you down.
27 sep 18 door lid: diehard3
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Well... camel toe. That's not pretty. Maybe you've been so excited about your weight loss that you bought new clothes you're not quite ready for? Not trying to shame you! But maybe a size bigger until you lose a little more? As for the rest... take a step out of the situation and take a walk. It gets you away from negative people and gets you a little exercise at the same time (and just from my point of view, it sounds like hubby is listening too much to mommy).
27 sep 18 door lid: SoCalPam
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It sounds like his Mother is not helping the situation at all. You may need to demand some boundaries. Weight is a number and those that have never battled with it, cannot understand war of attrition it is. Not only are you battling right now, but you know that it is a life long fight. It's not like an injury where you get surgery, recover and it's done. It's a 24 hour a day, 7 day a week relentless battle. You need support sweetheart. We are here for you. If people are judging you by the way you look, not by your heart and personality - they are shallow, period. Sending you all my love, hugs, and strength.
27 sep 18 door lid: Peasy3
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